A Spade Will Always Be A Spade

I'll probably get in trouble for this one, but I'm just speaking my mind. Maybe I'm biased because I'm really just defending my boy Nas. The main issue is spousal support. Let me be clear; I'm completely against deadbeat dads and I understand that women need money to take care of children. But at some point, an adult has to be an adult. I always talk about how marriage is such a big step. Two becomes one for as long as the marriage lasts. Once it ends though and there are kids involved, it gets ugly. The parents squabble over small things while the kids suffer. It's hard to feel sorry for a capable adult who relies on their former spouse for support once the marriage ends. There are so many single mothers out there who work and take care of their kids while going to school. They don't need anybody to take care of them. I don't know why a judge would allow them to keep the same lifestyle that they had when they were married. To me, "were" is the key word here. It almost seems like punishment to force the man to pay above his means to support his former wife and kids. That is why marriage is not on my radar right now. I don't have time to spend in court dealing with something like this. When the wife gets more than she deserves and then goes back to the court and asks for more, she looks bad. I didn't use the word that I wanted to there because this is a family blog. I can't know details, but I call it like I see it. Johnnie Taylor made a song called "It's Cheaper to Keep Her." Yes it is. Make sure she really loves you for you and not anything else. Or you could be singing the blues.